Stones Go Boom

As I mentioned, I’m attending a bonspiel this week (admittedly, at my own local club – the bonspiel is the 74th Annual Francis Dykes Memorial Bonspiel for men with 5 or fewer years of experience – so I’m coming home at night instead of staying at a hotel closer to the rink), and since we won last night, I don’t have another game until Saturday morning.

Basically, for the uninitiated, a ‘bonspiel’ is a curling tournament, meaning that for this weekend, there are forty teams from fifteen clubs on the East Coast (Carolina to New Hampshire, to be specific) at the club, so it’s very crowded, very warm and very loud in the warm room while games are going on.  As you can imagine, that’s probably not a good environment for most children with Autism.  While the Monster isn’t sensory adverse, it would almost certainly be too much sensory stimulation even for him, and he’d be inclined to go shrieking and running around between people’s legs.

Curling, itself, is an interesting sport – it’s a five century old Scottish sport that involves two teams of four players on a 160 foot long ice sheet, and somewhat resembles bocce in terms of scoring and chess in terms of strategy.  It’s… different than a lot of sports – it’s slower paced most of the time, it’s social, it’s not loud, and it doesn’t require the tremendous amounts of physical coordination that sports like gymnastics, basketball or other activities involve.

The social aspect is important on the ice and afterwards.  You have to talk to your teammates to communicate what you’re doing on the ice, what you’re going to be doing, what you want each person doing during a stone’s delivery… and you end up talking to your opponents over beverages and snacks after the match.  It’s a very low-barrier-to-entry environment to socialize in a very small group (eight people generally at the end).

I’ve mentioned before (see Have a Ball) that there’s a curling club out in the Midwest that does the occasional program for children and adults with Autism.  I’ve since discovered the original message I saw – it’s the Duluth Curling Club, in coordination with the Courage Center – and contacted them to find out how they run their program.  Their suggestions were along the lines of what I would have expected – to manage the environment to further decrease the noise, prep the participants for what to expect, go with the adaptations for special needs curling.  However, none of their suggestions are anything massive either, and it has a very open path to higher functioning participants to actually transition to ‘normal’ curling when they feel ready.

While the Monster’s not old enough yet to go curling, I’m hoping to get a program started for when he is old enough.

Getaway or Get Away?

The musings on going on vacation continue.

I have to admit that I’m probably more putting the brakes on going away so far than the wife is – she’s very gung-ho to go on a “real vacation”, whereas I’m more reticent because I don’t feel like there’s enough groundwork laid to plan this out. Continue reading

Mess Mode

I don’t quite know why I’m surprised when I come home to find things a mess.

I mean, okay, I was a kid once upon a time, and heaven knows I had enough trouble keeping things clean.  I remember at one point in college that I had a path from my door to my bed and desk, and the rest of the room was a disaster. Continue reading

Isn’t That Handy?

Having a special needs child means, sometimes, that you concentrate so much on the ‘special needs’ aspect of everything that you actually don’t know when you cross into ‘normal kid’ territory.

Part of the Monster’s IEP and pre-K curriculum involves pre-writing activities – this segues into his OT goals (holding a pencil/writing implement for developing strength in his hand) as well as the normal school curriculum for 4 and 5 year olds. Continue reading

Phrasal Future

Sorry for not posting yesterday – things just got way, way too hectic at work, and I just ran out of time to get something scribbled up here.

One of our biggest frustrations with the Monster’s verbal ability is a lack of narrative tone.  He’s very good at descriptive, literal use of language, and has been known to burst out with an observation about his surroundings – what’s in his view, what’s where, describing things… but he’s not much for telling the story of his day. Continue reading

Social Cues

Today is Presidents’ Day, which means that schools and my office are closed.

The wife and the baby have baby-and-me class on Monday mornings, so when we do have a federal holiday on a Monday, I stay home with the Monster, then swing out to the JCC with him to go retrieve the baby, letting my wife have some time for a workout. Continue reading